by Nicole Becker
This is a perversion of teachings about non-attachment which can easily lead us to sterile perfectionism and fundamentally condemns our humanness.
In the second camp the pendulum swings the other direction and we are encouraged to FEEL EVERYTHING.
In reaction to our generally emotionally repressed cultures there is the counter message to dig deep, lean in, uncover every shadow, relive every trauma, get to the bottom of every feeling, empathize with every beings' unique suffering, and express what's real for you right now! This is of course exhausting and if this indulgence goes unchecked it leads to depression, overwhelm, anxiety, and so.much.drama.
In the middle, of course is the path we aim to navigate. Where emotions are honored and welcomed as evidence of our humanity (and needs) but we are not enslaved by them to the point that we lose the sense of our larger self.
But the question is HOW.
The answer boils down to safety and trust. In order to have healthy emotional regulation, expression, and healing, we must have reliable trusted ground within ourselves from which we can safely explore and to which we can safely return.
Typically we outsource this reliability to a therapist, friend, partner or even a pet! But the problem is that we develop a dependency on them rather than maturing our inner-dependence.
This path of inner-dependence is both a mundane and deeply spiritual path. It is crucial therapy for the nervous system as well as the spirit.
The tools for true mature inner-dependence are honed in the spiritual heart. The spiritual heart is the "Pure Land" within that is free of emotions and thoughts in the sense that it is previous to them and also unperturbed by them.
It is here in the spiritual heart that we drink the nectar of wordless bliss and unconditional love. By spending time here, in our ground of being, we come to know our wholeness and perfection. As we are.
This wholeness is the real you. It is in you, as you, through you, and all around you.
Just as you are in this moment.
Can you feel it?
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Author, Nicole Becker
Yoga Therapist, Retreat Leader, and Heart of Yoga Teacher, Nicole Becker offers yoga and self-care insights and tips.